✪ “What Should I Do Now?” A Conversation with a recent widow

Susan: Rick, I’m overwhelmed. There’s just… so much to think about, and I don’t know where to start. What should I be doing right now?

Rick: First, Susan, take a deep breath. I can’t imagine how difficult this is for you. The truth is, in these early days, the most important thing is giving yourself space to grieve. You don’t need to have all the answers right away.

Susan: That’s good to hear, because people keep asking me if I’ve “taken care of the finances.” But I can barely get through the day.

Rick: And that’s completely normal. In the first few months, I usually tell my widowed clients: don’t make any major financial decisions unless absolutely necessary. This means don’t sell the house, don’t make large gifts, and definitely don’t make big investment changes. Your emotions are new and can feel overwhelming, and that can cloud judgment. Bear in mind, even though they may care deeply about you, your friends and family may not have the expertise to guide you on financial matters and it is usually best to seek the guidance of a professional before making any major financial decisions.

Susan: So, what should I be doing?

Rick: Just a few essentials to start. Things like:

Getting multiple copies of the death certificate. You’ll need them for things like Social Security, insurance claims, and retitling assets.
Do a life insurance search in case your husband had a policy you weren’t aware of. https://content.naic.org/article/naic-life-insurance-policy-locator-helps-consumers-find-lost-life-insurance-benefits
Notifying Social Security. You may be eligible for survivor benefits, depending on your age and circumstances. We should discuss your options before starting any benefits.
Reviewing your cash flow. Do you have enough to cover expenses for the next 6 to 12 months? If not, we can figure out a short-term plan.
Updating account ownership and beneficiaries. But only when you’re ready and after we’ve reviewed the full picture.

Susan: What about the will and all that?

Rick: Yes, good point. If your husband had a will, it may need to go through probate. I recommend meeting with an estate attorney—one who’s compassionate and experienced in this area. Also, we should revisit your estate plan too—especially your healthcare proxy, power of attorney, and will.

Susan: I just don’t want to make a mistake.

Rick: That’s exactly why you don’t have to do it alone. Working with someone you trust—whether that’s a Certified Financial Planner™ practitioner, attorney, or CPA—can help you avoid costly missteps. And remember, you don’t need to have everything figured out in year one. This is about stabilizing, not solving everything at once.

Susan: Thank you, Rick. That makes me feel a little calmer.

Rick: That’s the goal. We’ll take this one step at a time.

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Rick Fingerman, CFP®, CDFA™, CCPS®

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About the author: Rick Fingerman, CFP®, CDFA®, CCPS®

Rick is a founding and managing partner at Financial Planning Solutions, LLC. He has been helping individuals and families make sound financial decisions for over 30 years. Rick has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Retirement Daily, Investment News, The Boston Globe, Investopedia, Financial Advisor Magazine, Financial Experts Network, and the Chicago Tribune. Rick@PlanWithFPS.com